Its been a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. The past couple weeks I have been going back and forth in my mind about whether or not I was going to teach next year. I even told my principal that I was going to come back. Its just so hard to give up something you love and are good at and have worked SO hard to achieve. I feel like its not fair, especially when husband doesn't love his job but I DO and I'm the one that has to give it up. How is that fair?? Its not.
This experience has given me a greater respect for mothers. Especially stay-at-home mothers. I realize how hard it is to give up your previous life to take care of a precious baby and I am so grateful for it. I am so grateful for an amazing mother who gave up so much to stay at home and raise us. I owe everything to my mom. Not only did she give up her life to raise me, she is now giving up her life to take care of Owen while I'm a work. She truly is a remarkable person. You all are. Mothers are so selfless, giving, organized, clean, hardworking, amazing women. You have to be.
"No more sacred word exists in secular or holy writ than that of mother."
President David O. McKay declared: "Motherhood is the greatest potential influence either for good or ill in human life. The mother's image is the first that stamps itself on the unwritten page of the young child's mind. It is her caress that first awakens a sense of security, her kiss, the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness, the first assurance that there is love in the world." (Gospel Ideals, p. 452.)
President McKay continues: "Motherhood consists of three principal attributes or qualities: namely, (1) the power to bear, (2) the ability to rear, (3) the gift to love. . . This ability and willingness properly to rear children, the gift to love, and eagerness, yes, longing to express it in soul development, make motherhood the noblest office or calling in the world. She who can paint a masterpiece or write a book that will influence millions deserves the admiration and the plaudits of mankind; but she who rears successfully a family of healthy, beautiful sons and daughters, whose influence will be felt through generations to come, . . . deserves the highest honor that man can give, and the choicest blessings of God." (Gospel Ideals, pp. 453-54.)
"In the eternal family, God established that fathers are to preside in the home. Fathers are to provide, to love, to teach, and to direct. But a mother's role is also God-ordained. Mothers are to conceive, to nourish, to love, and to train."
"The deepest joys and blessings in life are associated with family, parenthood, and sacrifice. To have those sweet spirits come into the home is worth practically any sacrifice."
Finally President Kimball counsels: "I beg of you, you who could and should be bearing and rearing a family: Wives, come home from the typewriter, the laundry, the nursing, come home from the factory, the cafe. No career approaches in importance that of wife, homemaker, mother--cooking meals, washing dishes, making beds for one's precious husband and children. Come home, wives, to your husbands. Make home a heaven for them. Come home, wives, to your children, born and unborn. Wrap the motherly cloak about you and, unembarrassed, help in a major role to create the bodies for the immortal souls who anxiously await."
"Mothers in Zion, your God-given roles are so vital to your own exaltation and to the salvation and exaltation of your family. A child needs a mother more than all the things money can buy. Spending time with your children is the greatest gift of all."
Thank you mothers.
Happy Mother's Day. Here's to us!
This has been and is a difficult subject for me. Because Mark's in his final year of his masters I've had to work to help support us. While I only work part time, I still spend half the day away from Conner. I love him so much and sometimes I cry when I get home 1.) because I feel sad about leaving him and I miss him so much, and 2.) because I feel guilty because I actually enjoy working and the sense of accomplishment it gives me.I like that I'm using my degree and am respected and needed. It has been very difficult for me because I feel like the situation pulls at two very different parts of who I am. It was comforting to me to read your post and know I'm not the only one! Thanks for the article.
ReplyDeleteI felt like I was reading my own thoughts. I truly have had to go through the exact same thing with going from having maternity leave--going back to my awesome and well earned job and then now being a stay at home mom once we moved up to Salt Lake a month a go. It's helpful knowing that it's ok to feel this way and that others go through this as well. Because that's exactly why I did go back to work part time before-- we needed it and I also loved it. So it pulled on me for a while too.
ReplyDeleteNow that I am shifting my daily grind to being at home all day I have found things that have helped. If you ever want to talk I'm all ears! :) Plus we might even be close now too :)
But one thing that has helped me is when I talk to people and we're talking about life, etc... instead of saying "I'm just a stay-at-home mom now" I say.... "I GET to be a stay-at-home now". Because I have had to do the soul searching too to truly appreciate and understand why it's a blessing that I get to do it now. And I know that there are lots of mothers out there that wish they could and can't. And that makes me more grateful... (Ok sorry for this novel :))
P.S. You have a little cutie :)