Choose to be Happy

I feel so overwhelmed and blessed at the responses i received from my last post.  I didn't post that to get a bunch of compliments.  I posted it so I would get advice and counsel and words of reassurance.  And that is exactly what I got and I am so grateful for friends and family who shared with me their feelings and words of wisdom.  whether it was a comment on the blog, a text, an email, a card, or just talking in person; i really appreciate it!  THANK YOU!

i will share them with you. 

-Surround yourself with people that lift you up. 

-Appreciate your life and everything you have

-No one has is all together (even if they look like they do)

-Limit the social media, realize the source that makes you feel like that

-You are the best for YOUR family

-People don't portray the negative, DUH!  Who posts pictures of their babies blow outs? crying? piles of laundry? messy houses? fat rolls? un-done faces? etc.  NO ONE!  

-Feelings of inadequacy and failure only restricts you from being happy, improving, and relishing in the accomplishments that you do achieve

Eric was the one that really called me out on my fault.  He said that I feel like people are judging me the way that I judge them.  And its kind of true.  So I'm praying for forgiveness.  I mean, we all are more harsh on ourselves then we are on others.  I mostly just look at other people and wish i had their hair, or their wardrobe, or their body, etc.  who freaking cares!?!

The biggest thing that helped me was a cute letter I received in the mail from my mom in law.  She shared something that only she could have and it touched my heart in a special way.  She said the same things that other people said but it meant more.  She said that I am the exact wife that Eric needs.  She said that I am perfect for him.  I couldn't help but cry because I now know a mothers love for her son and i can't imagine anyone that could be perfect enough for my little Owen so it just meant a little more to me than anything else.  

"My dear sisters, as you live your daily life with all its blessings and challenges, let me assure you that the Lord loves you. He knows you. He listens to your prayers, and He answers those prayers, wherever on this world you may be. He wants you to succeed in this life and in eternity.

May I invite you to rise to the great potential within you. But don’t reach beyond your capacity. Don’t set goals beyond your capacity to achieve. Don’t feel guilty or dwell on thoughts of failure. Don’t compare yourself with others. Do the best you can, and the Lord will provide the rest. Have faith and confidence in Him, and you will see miracles happen in your life and the lives of your loved ones."

-President Uchtdorf

I then followed the counsel given by President Monson in this last General Conference that said to reflect on your life and about counting our blessing and being grateful for what we have.  I did that.  And honestly, I have NOTHING to complain about.  I have the ideal life.  Three years ago I wanted to be exactly where I am now at my age!  I wanted an amazing husband who would do everything for me. Check.  I wanted the cutest baby boy who eats well, sleeps well, and is happy.  Check.  I wanted to be able to stay at home with him.  Check.  I wanted to work in the primary.  Check.  I wanted to work in the Young Women.  Check.  I wanted a house.  Check.  I wanted my masters.  (In the process of a check).  I wanted a job where I could work from home. Check.  Great friends. Check. Honestly, ideal.  Everything that matters I have.  Who cares that sometimes my house is messy and i don't cook everything organic and i don't wear the size pants i want and i don't have the cutest most expensive name brand things. 

 I'm happy.  

Perfectly happy with my  perfect little family.  

The quote that I read and told myself everyday on my mission and everyday to my 6th grade class.  

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY.